On Forgiveness

On Forgiveness

Support Whistle Blowers: I used to harshly judge people who, after having knowingly enriched themselves in an unethical system, call out that system and try to lock the door behind them - hypocrites! But they are far better than the alternative majority, who knowingly enrich themselves in the same unethical system and wholeheartedly support it.

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Protect Durham's Crown from Development

Protect Durham's Crown from Development

The Eno River needs protection from impervious development *again* 🥺. If you live in Durham or North Carolina, please write your elected representatives in support of saving the land surrounding the Eno River and the few remaining pristine places we have left.

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To Dr. Mubenga and the DPS Board of Education (re Principal Hiring Process)

To Dr. Mubenga and the DPS Board of Education (re Principal Hiring Process)

This is the letter I sent to the Durham Public Schools Superintendent and School Board to implore them to *truly* choose a parent/teacher/community-oriented principal for my son’s and all Durham public schools, not just by their words but by the expectations that are communicated to prospective candidates as well as their previous records in this regard.

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Asking for Forgiveness Later

Asking for Forgiveness Later

American society has put layers of rules in place over its existence. Privileged people, who are generally white, have been permitted to bend those rules; while non-privileged people, who are generally people of color, have had to follow them to a T …

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The Hackensaw Boys and Asheville’s Momentum Gallery: You Will Regret Not Visiting

The Hackensaw Boys and Asheville’s Momentum Gallery: You Will Regret Not Visiting

While visiting UNC-Asheville before my 17YO son begins college there this Fall 🤗, we hesitantly walked into Momentum art gallery with his 19YO sister and 10YO brother and immediately took note of the exquisite (and exquisitely expensive) art surrounding us. “We won’t touch anything,” I said, looking between my youngest and the couple sitting at the card-like table along the wall. As we looked around, awestruck at times, we felt more like we were in a museum than an expensive art store…

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Cultural Appropriation and NPR's 2021 Tiny Desk Contest

Cultural Appropriation and NPR's 2021 Tiny Desk Contest

While at a beach in Costa Rica where many local residents were soliciting business, I suggested to my teenage daughter that she get her hair beaded. She'd done it once when she was little, and we both loved it. We'd support local business, and it'd be fun. My daughter promptly told me that I was being racist and educated me about cultural appropriation…

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Pleasant Surprises: Durham Home Hair Stylist

Pleasant Surprises: Durham Home Hair Stylist

During Covid, my friend Marshunda (the mother of one of my son’s classmates) set up a salon room in her house (she is trained in cosmotology). Meanwhile, my daughter dyed my long hair “Menopausal Covid Red”. I’d never dyed my hair before; and it was fun even if my husband didn’t like it 🙃. It also wasn’t going to grow out any time soon. I watched the line of gray move from the top of my head downward ; and, around the eight-month mark, I texted Marshunda that I wanted her to give me rainbow hair …

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N.C. Bill Hinders Local Tree Protection Ordinances, Underscores Need to End Gerrymandering

N.C. Bill Hinders Local Tree Protection Ordinances, Underscores Need to End Gerrymandering

A couple weeks ago, our tree maintenance company requested that we contact our state legislators to oppose a NC bill requiring localities to receive state approval for future (and many existing) tree protection requirements. For decades, the state-created NC Forest Service has encouraged and assisted local governments in Developing Tree Protection Ordinances. NC State and other NC Universities have also gone to great lengths to educate local governments and the public about the importance and ways to develop tree protection ordinances. And now the Republican-majority NC General Assembly is setting itself up to negate these same local tree protection ordinances.

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Seamus's Abyss
Children, Education, Community, Music, Relationships Melissa Rooney Children, Education, Community, Music, Relationships Melissa Rooney

Seamus's Abyss

Thanks for the positive feedback and informative responses to my last post regarding choosing between Berklee and UNC-Asheville for Child #2. We still have not received a financial package from Berklee. The Berklee admissions office told Seamus his official transcript was not received in time and that we should receive the financial details in a couple weeks. His decision is due May 1, mind you (exactly 2 weeks away).

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Is Berklee Worth it? Weighing College Options for Child #2

Is Berklee Worth it? Weighing College Options for Child #2

We are still waiting for my son’s financial package from Berklee, but our online research indicates that it will cost >4 times what UNC-Asheville has offered him. We know UNC-A is a great value. This year, U.S. News & World Report ranked it the seventh-best public liberal arts university in the United States, Forbes magazine ranked it #21 in the country for "Best College Value", and the Princeton Review ranked it within the top 13% of America's four-year colleges…

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Lesson Plan: Plants and Spring Planting

Lesson Plan: Plants and Spring Planting

Shortly after the Coronavirus quarantine started last year, my elementary-school 'pod' and I did a 4-days plants rotation … So today we planted the seeds of several spring vegetables … All three types of seeds are large and beautifully round, like tiny marbles. Using a ruler, we compared their sizes and found that …

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Regarding the County Manager's Contract and Upcoming Renewal

Regarding the County Manager's Contract and Upcoming Renewal

Below is the email I sent the Durham County Commissioners regarding the current County Manager's excessive contract. If you feel remotely inclined, please send your own concerns to your elected officials and feel free to cut and paste my letter (or any part thereof). Thanks for caring and sharing, Melissa

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Judy Garland's Ever Elusive Rainbow

Judy Garland's Ever Elusive Rainbow

Judy Garland first recorded “Over the Rainbow” for The Wizard of Oz with MGM on October 7, 1938. Since then, the Recording Industry Association of America and the National Endowment for the Arts ranked the song number one on the “Songs of the Century” list, and the American Film Institute named it the greatest movie song of all time on the list of “AFI’s 100 Years…100 Songs.” Somewhere Over the Rainbow was adopted in World War II by American troops in Europe as a symbol of the United States…

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Remembering Mr. Hammond

Remembering Mr. Hammond

My #ThemeSong today, once again, is Helplessness Blues by Fleet Foxes. It's one of my all-time favorites, and today the chorus calls to mind the life of SamHammond, long-time carillonneur at Duke University (53 years, daily(!)) and generous accompanist for Duke University String School (local elementary through high-school students, many on scholarship), who passed away recently. …

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Durham Elementary Students to Return to In-person Learning 4 Days/Week (!)

Durham Elementary Students to Return to In-person Learning 4 Days/Week (!)

My last post concerned the debate over whether Durham Public Schools should resume in-person learning in order to accommodate state legislation mandating a return to in-person instruction within 15 days (of the legislation's passing). Discussion on the topic has become heated and personal, which I find sad and incredibly frustrating. The simple question is this: After doing remote learning for nearly 12 months, why are we forcing teachers and staff back into classrooms mere weeks ahead of ensuring they are administered the vaccination we've all been waiting for?

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